Dominance: rule;control; authority;ascendancy. Random Thoughts Series 10 of 12.

Image credits: Anthony Hopkins depiction of Hannibal Lecter.

A well-meant warning on engaging in a total power exchange dynamic with a 24/7 Dominant, Master or Owner type top.

The total power exchange is just that. A complete obliteration of your autonomy. You get to have your feelings and opinions, sure. But you get to be put back on your heels about them and challenged at any time. Your direction and life path can and will change. You will make sacrifices for the simple amusement of another. Dominance is control. To test the limits of that control you will be boxed in. You will feel your Dominant hover over you and contain you mentally and emotionally. You will feel your Dominant tug on your leash and grind you into the ground. You will be made to feel small and secondary because your opinions, your perception of your needs and your wants come second. You may feel the instinct to push and feel as if you are in a maze with walls shooting up around you at every turn you take. But that is just the point. It isn’t your place to move. It’s your place to kneel. It’s your place to follow. It’s your place to submit. That Dominance, that control, does not have a on and off switch. Bondage needs no chains or rope. Bondage starts in the mind. You are a bird in a cage with a unlocked door. You have freedom to move within the cage that your keeper/owner/builder constructed. Your keeper decides if the cage becomes smaller or larger. Pressing against the bars will only effect your soft body but it will never effect the cage. I am a Dominant. Being in a relationship with a person like me is not for everyone. Your one choice is the choice to submit. Once that is done the particulars of your existence are in no way on your terms.

(Disclaimer: A good D/s relationship is a relationship where mutual needs are fulfilled. In a good D/s relationship there is no abuse and there is consent. In a good D/s relationship communication before engaging in and during is key. Lastly, your partner’s option to say they need their collar undone to leave must never be hindered. Given; safewords mean stop, make sure your partner is good and discuss what went wrong.)