A teaching moment... The Reminder...

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-Ownership in D/s will limit freedoms and it should. The submissive gives up freedom for care, guidance and love.

-A good submissive is obedient to her Dominant. A lack of obedience equals a lack of submission. A admirable submissive exhibits soft and small qualities toward her Dominant and around them. Not aggressive and brash qualities. They are polite and well mannered. Does that mean they have to take your shit, no. But nonetheless admirable qualities of a good submissive are the qualities of a good person functioning in the traditional female gender role. Humility is golden.

-Sadomasochisim in D/s is based on intimacy. If you do it for the art or you’re strictly going to a play party to get pain, good on you that’s a topic I’m not addressing here. If you’re meeting someone to play privately expect that they seek other intimacy from you. Don’t be surprised if a top is looking to get their cock sucked after they make you cry or bleed. After all who better to torment than the person your passions peak for and what’s more intimate than playing in your lovers blood? Nothing. So don’t be surprised if either Top or bottom look for the more traditional forms of intimacy afterward. It’s not a tattoo session. It’s a session of passion and intimacy. Expect intimacy and if that’s not what you’re game for do your Dominant/sub/Top/bottom a favor and say it before meeting. Assume engaging in that intimacy means you’re consenting to other intimate contact.

Somewhere D/s devolved a bit..

It’s traditionally understood.

Ownership means someone else is in charge.

Submissives submit to the will of their chosen person.

Sadomasochism and ritualistic submission are considered the highest form of intimacy.